"Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection
damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive
these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare." - Brene Brown
Recovery from an affair... is it possible? The answer is yes.
Relationships can weather all sorts of things including affairs and addictions - it takes willingness, time, skills and patience.
If you have had an affair it can take around two years to rebuild your relationship. Are you, and is your partner, willing to put in the time and effort? It will take effort. And, it can be done.
Relationships can recover after an affair.
However, there are steps that you need to take, in order for your relationship to recover.
Firstly, the person who has been having the affair needs to stop seeing the other person that they are involved with.
Break it off forever - and never have contact again.
If the partner who has been having the affair is willing to do this, and you are both willing to work towards repairing your relationship -
then we can work through the other steps together.
Your commitment to taking action is essential to the outcome of relationship counselling.
You and your partner need to both be willing to have honest, interactions in order to create the relationship you desire.
You may need to make some changes to some of your behaviour. You may need to learn some new skills, find out what each other's needs are, be transparent in our actions. Are you willing?
You are not alone - I have helped couples who wanted to heal from betrayal, learn how to handle conflict, work through grief and loss, talk over difficult issues and start to move on.
Lets work together...
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Couples counselling/coaching relationship sessions are not appropriate when: you or your partner is having an ongoing affair - disclosed or secret, or if there is domestic violence.
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